A study conducted by the University of North Carolina indicated that stress levels were lowered when participants hugged each other. It’s a kind thing to do. During Covid, no one could touch each other. Is this why we became unkind?
Hugging releases chemical feel-good endorphins such as oxytocin, described as a hormone of love, and the neurotransmitter, serotonin. (Cuddling with our beloved animals does the same.) This allows us emotionally to feel safe, secure, and in trusted hands. No amount of x’s, o’s, or happy face icons attached as an internet hug can replace a physical one!
What has happened to relationships, friendships, marriage, and simple kindness in this modern age?
“How delightfully good when brothers live together in harmony!” (Psalm 133:1) CSV
I surmise like me you are disgusted with the outcry in our political arena today. No one listens to another – rather hatred spews forth like sewage waste. It makes me grateful we have a God who always listens to us and is Absolutely Truthful and Kind.
In all things, GOD should be our Anchor. He instills a moral compass as well as the Golden Rule.
A spouse should always be your best friend. God brought you together for a reason. There was no coincidence. Do you care enough? For what you treasure, you take care of. (Matthew 6:21) Protect each other’s feelings through a lifetime commitment of respect, courtesy, and love.
LAUGHTER keeps a relationship young at heart. What seems like a crisis in a relationship can often be a learning experience which is usually laughed about years later. Don’t sweat the small stuff, as the saying goes. In perspective, it’s all small stuff. It’s only what we do for our Lord that truly matters.
TIME. In a strong, loving, balanced relationship, people continually allocate more time together than apart. Never stop supporting, learning, and growing together! God created us as complex creatures. It’s exciting to discover new friendships and interests that add to any couple’s extensive memory portfolio.
God, time, communication, and laughter, in my opinion, is the glue that holds faith, family, and friendship together.
COMMUNICATE! Don’t let your friendships or marriage become complacent! Complacency leads to boredom. Sadly, many marriages are disposable in today’s throw-away society. How many times while counseling, did I hear the phrase: “We used to talk for hours, but he doesn’t communicate anymore.” Food filled their loneliness void. Wouldn’t most women prefer good communication from the heart than a gift from the store?
I can’t believe someone fails to find something to talk about: vacation plans, friendships, sports, travel, world events, work, music, television shows, a joke you heard, a Bible study point of view . . . there’s literally a world of items to discuss!
We surround ourselves with such busyness and noise and yet more and more, as humans, we are lonely. Then we reach for anything that temporarily satisfies: food, drugs, alcohol, shopping. We find other items filling a void, falling further and further away from God’s Friendship. Get back to the Word! Communicate with our Lord.
Surround yourself with godly friends who build you up, encourage, and believe you are worth speaking to. It takes commitment, patience, and the Lord as the center of any relationship to ensure longevity. Reach out: Communicate!
“Whether it is pleasant or unpleasant, we will listen to the voice of the LORD our God to whom we are sending you, so that it may go well with us when we listen to the voice of the LORD our God.” (Jeremiah 42:6)