Who’s Pulling Your Strings?

An entire month has gone by since you’ve made that New Year Resolution to lose weight! I’m sure you started out determined – but have you failed once again? Discouraged? Wondering why?

There are always mental, physiological and/or spiritual connections. Who’s pulling your strings?  You are the only one who can decide which outcome to choose.

“But I have no willpower!”     

So you think that, do you? Don’t be a puppet (or marionette) – think for yourselves.

That same willpower which prevents you from telling your boss, mother-in-law or that rude sales clerk what you really think of him or her, is the same willpower you should tap into to prevent yourself from losing control. Any decision has good and bad consequences involved.

Who controls your mind? It should be the Lord! “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

Become a better decision maker. Think logically! Only three things that happen in any situation:

  1. The event itself
  2. Self-talk 
  3. Your reaction

Here’s an example:

Your husband just called and suggested going out to dinner tonight. Sounds better than the boring grilled chicken you were thinking of preparing. You’re tempted. So what do you do?

  1. The phone call was the event. You’re faced with decisions – stick to your weight-loss plan or give in?
  2. Next, you’ll go through a little back and forth self-talk:  Well, I’d hate to disappoint my husband. I’ve been so good, maybe I could just give in this once. But I’m sooooo on track to fit into that gorgeous dress for our daughter’s wedding. But do I really want to chance it won’t fit? So tempting
  3. Finally the reaction: Whatever you choose to do, you own. It was your decision, no one else’s.  No one else lives within your brain!

Willpower becomes a matter of personal integrity – choosing to do the right thing when no one else is watching. You already know what you should do, so talk yourself into success.

Here’s another tip to build willpower. Tap into your visualization skills. Imagine fattening food smeared all over your body. Now imagine walking into your daughter’s wedding, looking like that!

Which is more important, a cherished, lifetime memory or momentary pleasure? Which would make you feel more positive and special every day?  That’s precisely your goal; a lifelong commitment of feeling special because you are!

Create productive thoughts throughout the day to strengthen you. Tell yourself, “I am a strong, competent person because I am a child of a very important King.”

You were bought with a price by our Lord Jesus Christ. Did Jesus have to die for our out- of-control eating habits; for the sake of an entire Pepperidge Farm cake which you ate in one sitting? Well, actually yes.

Sin is sin! Jesus died for ALL sins, even for creating idols out of food. Gluttony is sin. It doesn’t matter if it is fattening fast-food, chocolate, pretzels, or health food. If it becomes your god, it’s an idol.

“But I can’t help myself!” Seriously? You can accomplish anything if you want it enough! Pray for wisdom and strength.

Think ahead and strategize. Write ideas down. Develop practical ways to overcome temptation. Make alternative choices so you’re prepared when you are tempted. Be proactive! Resolve not be brought down by a piece of cake! God made you stronger than food! Memorize Philippians 4:13. God is stronger than your food cravings!

 

12 thoughts on “Who’s Pulling Your Strings?

  1. This is really good, Ellie, I’ll be passing it along. I love the event / self-talk / decision story, makes it easy to see where things break down.
    Thank you, and Happy New Year!
    Mary

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    • I appreciate your comment Boofer. Then the question becomes “why” we don’t want it . That’s where I, as a counselor, figure it out with the patient. Why does someone prefer self-destruction as opposed to being healthy? Commonly fear of failure, fear of success, peer pressure, people-pleaser, insecurities, nutritional deficiencies, self-abuse and countless other reasons contribute. That’s why I enjoy counseling! Thanks again, ❤

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  2. Ellie, you always have a way to quote scripture that is inspiring and logical. Also, your post is a great reminder about how we are each responsible for our own willpower. And, also a reminder to leave those cookies on the grocery shelf! 🙂 ❤

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    • Thank you Carol, you’re so kind. (I believe everything one needs to know about human nature can be found in the Bible) You’re right – discipline begins in the grocery store and that’s extremely hard! As you know as well, eating anything is fine in moderation so I don’t advocate sacrificing or denying oneself chocolate or a sweets. I simply ask myself if I would like myself better if I was out of control – nope, not happening! 😉

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