As my “New Year, New You” class began one morning, I placed a single Dove Dark Chocolate piece in front of each attendee. I never said anything, just watched.
Then I asked the question, “Why did you act as you did?” Almost all of them shrugged subconsciously. Then someone broke the ice. “Well, I thought you were going to take it away from me, so I ate it before you could!” Laughter ensued, opening up the discussion. “Well, I know my wife loves these, so I gave it to her.” I was waiting for you to tell us what to do.” “I’m saving it for after lunch.” “I thought it was a test and I didn’t want to give in.”
“Well,” I explained, “I suppose in a way it was a test but probably not in the way you expected. It wasn’t a test of willpower, it was a test of reaction. How we act around food tells us a great deal about ourselves. I was curious to observe how you would react to a seemingly ‘bad’ food. Decision-making and how peer pressure influences you. Until someone knows why they eat the way they do, they’ll never change our habits and reactions around food.”
So what would you do?
If you’d eat the candy right away, you’re likely an independent thinker, sometimes rebellious, a ‘show me why that’s important’ type of personality. You’re saying, “If it makes sense I’ll follow your direction, but if it doesn’t, forget it, I’m doing my own thing!” These are the type of patients who need common sense instruction. Like what does this mean to me in dog years? This personality is trained like a great race horse. As they learn, let them take control of the reins. They accept responsibility for their actions but need to understand diet truths.
Timothy 1:7 states, “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but of power, of love and of self-discipline.”
Those who waited for instruction, indicated they were strict ‘rules and regulations’ types. They follow instructions but won’t show initiative unless they know their actions are approved. They don’t want to look foolish or make mistakes. They are people pleasers but expect perfection from themselves. These tend to lean on a counselor as a crutch. If they begin to get too close to their goal, they’ll gain weight, afraid to break the bond and be on their own. They need confidence and belief in themselves.
2 Timothy 2:15, “Study to show yourselves approved by God . . .”
The husband who gave away his candy to his wife, thought his actions were kind. In actuality, he became a saboteur. His wife, a people pleaser, couldn’t hurt his feelings, so she ate it, sabotaging her efforts. This couple, I would urge to be each other’s support system for good not evil. Giving in or enabling another’s bad habits is never a good thing. Strive to build each other by being a support partner.
Philippians 3:14 “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”
Be aware of how you act around food, pressing on toward the goal of becoming your own New Creation, pleasing God in all things.