A wise man once said, “He has not escaped, who drags his chains behind him”.
If we carry excess baggage, mental as well as physical, we will never break loose from the constraints that chain us to the past. Until we recognize why we eat as we do, we’ll never break free enough to control our eating habits! Face it, living through an awkward puberty or in a broken home isn’t easy. Sometimes our favorite memories, perhaps Mom baking cookies or eating at McDonald’s, comfort us and provide the emotional security that’s missing in our grownup lives.
Philippians 3:13, 14, “Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”
Forgiveness is challenging and forgiving yourself is sometimes hardest! Is there anyone who wouldn’t want to go back and erase something they’ve done or said, causing pain to others? Knowing humans have faults, let’s learn from the past and strive for a better future, . We aren’t perfect and God doesn’t expect perfection from us.
One of the toughest challenges we are faced with is to forgive others who have betrayed or deeply harmed us. Sometimes our minds just can’t forget the inner pain we suffered due to something someone said or did. But being “good little children” we didn’t talk back, so those feelings were stuffed inside. Innately we found ways to numb that pain through reckless behavior, drink, drugs or food.
But holding on to the sorrow we experienced is another way to gather attention as well. Don’t you know someone in your life who loves to be the center of attention? When someone can control and manipulate others by gathering sympathy, is also a way to control the situation and that feeling’s hard to give up.
Christian author, Lewis B Smedes, once said: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Change, like salvation, must come from within! Set yourself free! Dedicate yourself to becoming a New Creation. It’s not an easy process, but certainly worth the journey. Look at others through God’s eyes. Recognize that with God as a team-mate, you can forgive. If God can send his beloved Son to die for our wicked, disgusting sins, thus forgiving US, then for heaven’s sake, (literally) we should forgive one another . . . including ourselves!
Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a pure heart, oh God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
With God’s help, He will restore your attitude; you simply have to be a willing participant.