For some, the holidays are not a joyous time. Some feel broken and seek healing.
Having a support system during a personal time of need is extremely important. It’s like repairing a bone that has been broken.
Let’s imagine someone has a broken leg. During the healing process, when that bone is beginning to mend, deposits of calcium form at the site of the fracture, strengthening and rebuilding the broken part. A plaster cast is also placed around the broken bone, surrounding it from further harm.
Later, after it is fully healed and the cast is removed, the entire bone begins to return to a more balanced state of use until the fracture becomes the same consistency as the rest of the unit. So during that time of recovery, the fractured bone actually heals stronger.
Why am I telling you this and what possible practical application can we learn from it?
Well everyone has gone through a personal crisis sometime in their life that requires support. This year it might be the loss of a loved one, a marriage falling apart, financial disaster, debilitating illness or an environmental tragedy like Hurricane Sandy. We appreciate someone there who encourages and surrounds us with love while we heal emotionally.
Humans have an innate desire to feel safe. In my illustration, friends, relatives, your church, represent the plaster cast and God’s Word is the calcium that heals.
What if your friends allowed you to wallow too long in your suffering? I’ve seen real tragedy become a pity party for attention, lasting months if not years. Even the doctor knows that the plaster cast must come off eventually or else the entire leg will deteriorate. A true friend will not allow you to wallow and atrophy in spirit. They’ll use tough, confrontational love if they must. They don’t want you to develop a “learned helplessness” syndrome, rather find your inner strength though God’s powerful promises.
It is so tempting to shake our fist at God and ask “Why did you do this to me?” Sometimes bad things do happen to good people. We’ll know why in heaven. Usually however, we have had something to do with creating the situation. In those times we must own our actions. Did we expect to “jump off a roof” and NOT have an accident? Whether it’s what we consume, inhale, a rebellious attitude, a lack of communication . . . a bad habit has a tendency to control us over time. All of these however can be overcome through a sincere desire for change.
I’m continually amazed at the attitudes of those who have lost limbs and gone through unimaginable stress during the Iraq/Afghanistan war. Much of this has to do with the tremendous support system surrounding them, such as the Wounded Warriors organization. The acceptance of their incredible challenges has instilled a desire to live positive, productive lives and be grateful for all God already has done, regardless of their situation. What remarkable testimonies they project! I’m sure many have won others to the Lord through their godly witness during adversity.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds,” Psalm 147:3
Friends heal the outside and God will heal the inside. Memorize Scripture and verses will come to mind to strengthen you when you need them most. Trust, obey and praise God who loves you unconditionally for He’ll never leave you nor forsake you!
1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”